my second love….
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to change or not to change?
8Why is it that we’re always so compelled to change our significant others? Whether it’s really for their own good or not, is that our call to say? If you truly love someone, are you not suppose to just love them for them and not ask for anything else?
As we grow older, it’s inevitable that we’ll change and grow as an individual, as a girlfriend/boyfriend, a wife/husband or a mother/father. If you find yourself always wishing he/she was better, no matter if that one thing was big or small, have you ever asked yourself whether you’re really wanting them to change for the better? Or are you really asking them to change for you? I believe no matter what, you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to be changed. Whether it’s good for them or not, if they’re not ready to see the benefits or are not open to the idea of change, they’re never going to. In fact, you might find yourselves doing the complete opposite.
I think we’re all a little guilty when it comes to wanting to “better” our partners. We all secretly hope they’ll be more of “something” but would that “something” really make us happier? Or would we then just find something else that we want them to be as well? I personally find myself questioning if those things are really that important? Should we not spend the time enjoying what we have and what makes our relationship so great and special rather than dwell on hoping that one day they’ll decide that that “something” is actually something they’d like to change? Life’s simply too short to hope for the little things that “just aren’t that important”.
So why the fork do we do it? Can we ever just be happy with what we have?
Long Distance Blues
10Long distance is never easy and 95% of the time, it never works out. But when you’re that 5% that does, you better realize just how special your relationship truly is and cherish the unique bond you two share. It’s no doubt life changes and sometimes after being together for a few years or less, we find ourselves separated from the ones we love whether it’s for work or for family. Then as time passes, couples find themselves slowly drifting apart, not always by choice but more so because they learned to adapt to their individual lives separately. We all get so busy nowadays with our own lives that we slowly lose the ability to communicate with one another and thus sacrificing the intimacy of words. But if you truly love them and you don’t allow temptation, loneliness or your own selfishness to get the best of you, you’ll find that in the end, it’s always worth the wait.
Have no fear
2Although relationships themselves tend to be very scary things, they can also be very rewarding and comforting. If we always give in to our fears of falling in love, thinking you’ll be cheated on, thinking you don’t deserve them, thinking you’re not good enough and the list goes on…. you’re basically standing in your own way of ever finding happiness.
There will always be a reason of why not to do something, especially when it comes to love. But it’s when you finally let your guard down, welcome the challenges, obstacles and compromise that is what makes up a relationship, that you’ll truly discover the meaning of unconditional love.
Loving those who never seem to love you back…
9Read a tweet the other day that said “the love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned” and it kind of brought back to a series of memories that solidified everything that quote described.
Why the fork do we always fall hardest for those who will never reciprocate the same level of love? Why do we always become so vulnerable to those lying cheating SOB’s who make us question whether or not they really cared about us to begin with or did they just pursue us to get into our pants? And the worst part is, no matter how much you fight and how much they try to get you to hate them enough for you to break up with them, you never have the guts to. Funny thing is, he’s too much of a coward to break up with you and you’re just too stupid to figure that out at the time….But then when you finally decide to give up and break up once and for all, that love still resides… for you anyway. No matter how hard you try, you can’t forget them. But why spend that time clinging onto a love that was so one-sided? Why do we love them so much when they never even loved us enough?
Sadly I’ve gone through this a few too many times but in the end, it all doesn’t matter. You know why? Because out of all those toads, I was able to find my prince charming and grew to learn just what I was willing to settle for: Nothing but the best, cuz I deserved it, I deserved better. And so do you.
Stuck in Reverse
89Why the fork is it that the worst always seems to get the best of us? So many of us out there have so much going for us yet we find ourselves stuck in relationships that mentally and physically drain us.
How many of you out there have friends who just stay with their significant others because it’s comfortable? Because they’ve been with them so long they don’t know any better or worse, they begin to fear there’s no one else left for them out there. I’m here to tell you to get your act together, pick yourself up off that comfortable couch and move on. Why the fork would you settle for anything less than what you deserve? Why deprive yourself of anything less than head over heels, butterflies in your stomach, can’t stop smiling, mind consuming love?
Ok, so if it’s just the spark that’s gone, there are things one can do to get the spark back as long as you’re still in love with them. BUT, if the spark is gone AND you feel as though something is seriously missing in your relationship and you don’t know how to get it back, chances are, it’s too late to save. There’s also the point where if you rather give up than try, you already know your answer.
However, when you finally have the courage to make a stand, break off the ties and leave them once and for all, you find yourself constantly stuck in reverse as you start second guessing your decision. And after all that, you’re right back to where you started…..hopeless and in denial.
"Being single doesn’t mean you’re weak, it mean you’re #strong enough to wait for what you really deserve…."
"There is no feeling more comforting and consoling than knowing you are right next to the one you love."
10 Things Women wish Men knew Pt.1
101. Cheat and die
2. Saying I love you before, during or after sex don’t count
3. Never ask for sex
4. A nod or a shrug is not an answer
5. When we say “fine” it’s not fine
6. A note, email, text message shows us you’re thinking of us
7. Shoes determine whether you’re fashionable or not
8. Always stick up for your woman.
9. Telling us we should work out = we’re fat
10. When we say we feel fat, tell us we’re not regardless of what you think
What’s your Number?
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In today’s society, it’s very rare to find someone without a “number”. Nowadays, our concern lies more so in what that number is and whether or not we choose to reveal our true number to our potential partners.
So what number is too high? Does it even affect your decision in the person you choose to date? I would think most people would say it didn’t matter… but does it really not matter to you? If the number got too high, would you think differently of that individual? I know I would, but I guess that really depends on our personalities and who we are. After all, if you’re a bit promiscuous yourself, you can’t exactly be a hypocrite and expect a pure prince charming.
So what’s your number?
